What Truly Happens in Therapy?

Adriane Barroso
Jun 18
3 min read

Updated: Jul 10

We get this question all the time: "But what happens in therapy?" It can seem like a mystery, especially if you've never been. Even those who have been may still find it unclear. Here, we provide some insights for you. 😊

It's Not a Lecture. It's Not a Conversation.

Therapy isn't about being told what to do. Instead, it serves as a space where you can speak freely. We listen carefully—not just to your words, but also to what lies beneath them.

Sometimes sessions are structured, while other times they are more open. However, they consistently focus on helping you uncover meaningful patterns and construct new ways of relating to yourself and others.

What to Expect In a Typical Session

There are several aspects to a typical therapy session:

You Set the Pace. You're never pushed to share anything before you're ready. We get curious with you and ask thoughtful questions when it feels right.
No "Right" Thing to Say. Your tears, laughter, silence, or confusion—all of it belongs in this space. There is no wrong way to express yourself.
Progress Isn’t Always Linear. Some sessions feel like significant leaps, while others seem quieter but are essential groundwork. Both experiences hold value.
Detours Are Okay. Therapy isn't a checklist to complete. It’s about human connection, and that’s where the real healing occurs.

The Differences Between Therapy and Friendship

So… is therapy like having a friend?

Not exactly. In therapy, you don't have to feel responsible for our feelings. We are not there to judge you or provide opinions based on our own lives. You have the freedom to express anger, confusion, or uncertainty without the worry of being 'pleasant.' You can simply be yourself, and we will hold that space for you.

If you've been struggling—be it with anxiety, relationship difficulties, grief, or just a general sense of discontent—then therapy is definitely for you.

Exploring Your Feelings and Experiences

When you come to therapy, you embark on a journey of self-exploration. You can delve into emotions that may have been buried for a long time. This process is not always easy; it requires courage to confront feelings and experiences that may be uncomfortable.

However, it is important to remember that you are not alone in this journey. Your therapist is there to guide you through this process, providing support and understanding every step of the way.

Understanding the Therapeutic Process

Many people wonder how long they will need therapy. The truth is, it varies for everyone. Some may find relief in just a few sessions, while others may benefit from ongoing support over a longer period.

Whatever your journey looks like, it's essential to approach it with patience and openness. Therapy is not about quick fixes; it’s about sustainable growth and understanding over time.

When to Seek Therapy

Deciding to seek therapy is a personal choice. It may feel daunting, but it can be a transformative experience. You don’t need to wait for a crisis to seek support; therapy can be beneficial at any stage of life.

If you feel lost, overwhelmed, or simply want to better understand yourself, your feelings, and your relationships, consider reaching out. Therapy provides a supportive environment where you can explore these aspects safely.